Become Who You Already Are by Staying out of your own way

“You don’t become what you want; you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul

It’s time … or rather its been time to stay out of your own way, so you can FINALLY Become Who You Already Are.

You are the ONLY one who is in charge.

You are the ONLY one that matters … well not actually, but you understand me.

You are the ONLY one that has the greatest potential to position you to Become Who You Already Are.

You MUST learn to study your craft, and relax when anxiety greets you.

You are NOT alone there are a lot of people on this same journey to become, so keep the faith.

Ignore the foolishness and RELEASE the stress along with all the mess.

DO NOT ALLOW folks to annoy you on this your journey.

Be enough for you. Stop holding yourself hostage. Be FREE!

To some you may NOT seem ready, but you can certainly get ready to stay out of your OWN way, so you get closer to Becoming.

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The Process to Become Who You Already Are

Do you often feel as if you are in the fight of your life?

Well if so take a number, I imagine most creative beings feel this way often. My life by far has been no crystal stair nor has it been a series of disappointments either, but rather someplace in between here and there. DISCLAIMER: If you are a parent, you will ALWAYS want to PUT your children first to help them leverage life, but be certain that you teach them about self love, and putting themselves 1st before those they love, so they can live without leaking. This will NOT be the post that speaks of all that ails-no more pity parties ONLY Victory parties-me, I will save that for my therapist (I don’t have one anymore, but I thought that would read nicely), I actually fired my therapist sometime ago.

Bottom-line is that we all need someone to talk to or rather someone to listen to us rant, hence the reason I have you and you got me babe. On a serious note though, honestly most of your family, and/or friends could care less what hurts you (or else they would cease from participating in the dart throwing, gossip, agony and lies), so don’t be upset with that fact, but rather know that your gifts will make room for you, hence avoid TOXIC people, places, and things at all cost-even if it is family. The moment that you STOP trying to involve everybody in all your business & life affairs-sadly thinking they truly care since you have cared for them during their developmental years begin to get over them and it too, so you can focus on YOU-. You will NOT have to holler, scream nor overwhelm folks with your dreams, agenda, purpose, plans, talents, and/or gifts nor ideas because others of significance will boast and brag for you as your third party validation as your GIFTS make room for you. NOTE TO SELF —> Things to REMEMBER—> Live by this and the following too.

Become Who You Already Are with Daphne D Williams

Become Who You Already Are with Daphne D Williams

What I know for sure, my reasoning isn’t yours and vice verse, & all in all it’s okay, I’m okay with agreeing to disagree. We all have our path, journey, and process, but we also chose who we allow in our space or timeline so to speak, so monitor what comes and goes in, through and around you. Personally until most recently, I looked at the process of becoming as a struggle, fight, a battle and a trek in which I felt was out of my control or rather so out of hand it was extremely baffling to say the least, and carrying so much was basically wearing me out & down, so I RELEASED IT ALL, and YOU SHOULD TOO —> whatever your IT is.

No longer will I look to anyone first before seeking the wisdom from the nuggets I’ve managed to glean throughout the years along the way from those brighter than me, and those who have taught me valuable lessons. You will hear from your Mentors, Coaches, Motivational Speakers, and Professionals that if you’re the smartest person in your circle; clearly you need another circle of friends, business partners, associates and networking groups. Sadly my circle is a line — not many therein, but I have managed through the lonely nights, alone times and now I crave it more than anything else since that’s where I produce my best work in a quiet dark room with me. Don’t get it twisted there are many times where I can be a social butterfly and then there are others when I prefer to be left alone to write, meditate and be absolutely still to center myself, which has been the best self discovery I know to quite honest with you.

Many who knew you when all you did was give all your time to them will NOT like you, and will point out to you the time you didn’t spend with them or those they thought you should, but forgive them and don’t allow any guilt to sink in, but rather rinse and repeat by continuing to spend more time with you. REMEMBER: A lot of people have one agenda, and it is called “The Me Agenda. These types of people (come in all shapes and sizes) are time wasters, tire kickers, invaders & dream snatchers, and seek to take, but never give. If you are a giver, you often get sucked in by them and their pie in the sky wish list of dreams that often involves using you, and wasting your talents, and ONLY to turn into your nightmare. There is nothing wrong with putting you first (I have learned this one the hard way – by living life), but it will serve you well eventually, so the point is to care for you first and then everybody else, but don’t be selfish along the way if that makes any sort of sense, especially with you.

Personally, I believe we are all here to help each other in some small way, but sadly a lot of folks lost their memo, and are ONLY her to be takers, fakers, and bakers (cooking up a plan for your time simply to use you and NEVER pour back into you). If like me, you feel you give, give and give more & never see your giving returning unto you simply put —KEEP GIVING, but be certain that you have enough overflow first, hence don’t change you ONLY the company you keep as well as who you give to. You are on your own radar in that giving climate because therein you will find your greatest self realized when in fact you have abundance in the overflow room awaiting just for you.

The” Me Agenda” isn’t about being a taker, but ensuring that you have all of what life has to offer you first before attempting to give or be at others disposals when they NEVER plan to give anything back to you, thus leaving you more dry and barren than when they first met you.

The “Me Agenda” is selfish, and no way am I telling you to be all about you i.e., “Me”, but I am telling you to learn to focus on what your needs are (it shouldn’t be called selfish when caring for you, but if you are giver, you, like me may feel guilty caring for you).  Before pouring out to give of yourself to others, be clear you are NOT in need of that which you desire to give away at the expense of losing a little more of you. At this point those who knew you when you gave others at the expense of you are now mad at your new found self actualization, and guess what you OWE NO MAN (Woman) ANYTHING, but TO LOVE THEM. At this pivotal stage, you are NO LONGER EMPTY nor in need because if you are, you aren’t respecting the PROCESS, but causing a BLOCKAGE (because you keep putting you last and expecting to be first, which is a form of insanity), thus out of alignment with the Universal Laws, your GIFTS, the BALANCE of LIFE itself thereby making life, living and designing your future harder to build, manage and live within.

We all have been called for something great, but if we continually cast our precious pearls amongst swine while disrespecting The Process to Become Who You Already Are then you will forever be in need, seeking handouts, help, restoration, and the crumbs from others who could care less about you, your cause, movement or outlook on becoming. Needless to say that last sentence would be a tragedy in the making if we refuse to value ourselves, and allow others to continually abuse us by making us feel guilt while wasting our lives debating with them on why you’ve changed as if you worked diligently to remain the same your entire life. CHANGE IS GOOD. CHANGE IS NEEDED. CHANGE IS A MUST. CHANGE IS WHAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND. IF FOLKS ARE MADE BECAUSE YOU HAVE CHANGED —> LEAVE THEM ALONE. LIFE, LIVING & LEGACY BUILDING IS ABOUT CHANGE & GROWTH, so continue to develop & strengthen you 1st.

It’s best while on your journey to Becoming Who You Already Are that you would first know thyself and to thine own self be true, thus begin to STIR UP THE GIFTS within, and allow God to make it do what it do in, through as well as around you without the guilt & shame of playing the back and fourth game with those who desire to steal, rape and rob you of your precious time, and throw a guilt trip on you for NOT continuing to cast your pearls amongst swine.

It is time to rewind your thoughts and remember the way it was when you thought of building your empire before allowing all sort of foolishness in your head, ears and atmosphere to block your growth. Begin to rebuild with that unshakable faith you have deep within and avoid all manner of sin (better written than done), and live the life you believe ONLY you can by stop believing that all you were made for was to put others before you. TAKE CARE OF YOU! It is NOT only time to live, and design an amazing legacy, but it is time to do so by carving out some time just for you to respect the process and give yourself permission to Become Who You Already Are. During the process of becoming, you may feel baffled, and hazing along the way — keep believing that you matter, your time is as precious as the next persons and DO NOT GIVE ALL OF IT AWAY —NO MATTER WHAT! You are NOT allowed to OFFER or GIVE ANYONE an EXCUSE on why you DECIDED TO STAY AWAY —> ONLY DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!

REMEMBER YOU OWE NOBODY NOTHING (double negative on purpose), BUT TO LOVE THEM, so in that DO NOT OVERDO it as I have in the past. Learn to love others the way that they allow it, hence up close and personal or from a distant. Keep in mind, I NO LONGER TAKE THEIR DISTANT PERSONAL, so I WON’T EXPECT THEM TO TAKE MINE THAT WAY EITHER on this my  journey to #BecomeWhoIAlreadyAm.

There is NO LOVE LOST, but only GUARDING MY HEART since therein are the ISSUES OF LIFE. Refusing to give anyone the knife to cut away at me anymore, I’ve been patched up from deep within from all prior wounds both self induced, purposeful, out of hate, demonic, and by many nameless irrelevant others without warning most of the time. You all know who you are, so know I forgave you the moment you inflicted me with your hate, evil and wickedness, but sadly YOU CAN NOT BE TRUSTED ever again, but NO BITTERNESS simply letting you know I comprehend it all now, hence it will all be used for my good.

Truly NOW all the mess, stress, and foolishness was designed to be  The 1st Step to Respecting The Process to Become Who You Already Are, notwithstanding, I still have mad love to shower on others (ONLY reserved for those who are willing to accept it though), hence, I pour it into myself first in case (they) haven’t learned to do so yet, I am ensured to stay full of love, peace, joy with a renewed mind on this becoming path because freely I share it with me 1st and foremost.


Give Yourself Permission to Become Who You Already Are

On purpose, I ask you to Give Yourself Permission to Become Who You Already Are by first starting with:

  1. Knowing thyself
  2. Work on you by avoiding all the things that seeks to zap your oxygen, hence breath life into your stuff, things ideas and STOP CASTING YOUR PEARLS AMONGST SWINE!!!
  3. Avoiding Dogma, Toxic People, Places, Thinking, & Things,
  4. Rid the negative noise within your ears, and/or around you, hence replace it with inspiration
  5. Stop allowing others to dictate what you will become, do and what you can NOT do
  6. Remain out of your on way daily
  7. Be You Do NOT worry about what others are doing —> #BrandYOU


BECOME WHO YOU ALREADY ARE  Copyright by Daphne DwriteWELL Williams

BECOME WHO YOU ALREADY ARE ™ Copyright by Daphne DwriteWELL Williams

Here are tips to  implement it all once you have the above under wraps

  1. Start with mapping out a Strategic Plan of Action (perhaps this comes 1st or after #1) either way —> Write The Vision and Though it Tarry Wait for it
  2. Master your craft
  3. Find ways to get around the no’s and all the closed doors by formulating your own entry way
  4. Carve your own path —> for example if you have a desire to Write then become the Columnist on your own Blog and be consistent (NOTE TO SELF), make it stellar content and also share it by connecting as well as commenting on Blogs you want to collaborate with or get the attention of.
  5. Leverage the Internet —> The New Economy offers many ways to live, ignite, build a brand, and simply (well it isn’t simple, but rather takes effort) Become Who You Already Are if ONLY you would:

Trust the Process it will NOT be easy but rather WORTH it:

  1. Respect, appreciate and again Trust The Process
  2. Stick with it, and STOP giving up, hence Consistency is KEY
  3. Do what you love, and go from passions to profits with persistence
  4. Create with excellence in mind by teaching others ways to avoid what set you back in the past
  5. Study your craft –> Get the facts, stats, and raw data within your field of study
  6. Don’t worry about competition because it is actually a great thing for sales … Plus if you do what you do well, you won’t have much competition, and when people like you that is it they’ll do business with you and send you plenty of referrals, I know this from building an Online Business, hence we live in The Trust Economy where most of your clients will be strangers 
  7. Become the expert within your industry, hence as the leader you will build a huge following, which helps you monetize your gifts as they seamlessly make room for you.

Design the future you want by NEVER GIVING UP despite your lack of money, support, and/or team because the resources and access to FREE and Affordable Tools are endless, so instead keep striving, learning, growing, and becoming.

REMEMBER that what you seek and want also seeks & wants you too, so go live the life you want by creating an Authority Blog & Brand on your topic.

Comment below on the next steps that you plan to take to #BecomeWhoYouAlreadyAre, and go get that research done, so you can hone in on what it is you want from your journey in life, and then make that happen.

Share this Post on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram & Pin it too on Pinterest. Thank you for reading and being here in this moment with me. Daphne D. Williams

The Blueprint to Become Who You Already Are

The Blueprint to become who you already are takes living, overcoming, enduring, and maybe a few stumbling blocks, bumps along with twist in the road of your life where bruises and losses have been the normal to actually shifting your mindset into discovering  who you are, what you are made of, what you want from this your life journey, and how you plan to go about obtaining it all.

The title itself may be a little misleading, but I make no apologies for that or promises that you will actually find your Blueprint because I don’t know how relentless you are.  Of course within many books, motivational tapes, DVD’s, digital downloads there is always helpful information one can use to leverage life, but it is your free will to become or not, so if you don’t apply, implement and/or take massive action you will not find your Blueprint. We all have many decisions to make as to when we set aside time to #BecomeWhoWeWereCreatedToBe without hesitation, setbacks and/or challenges.

Remember on this Become Who You Already Are road you seek to be apart of will be no crystal stair in fact it may be a lonely ride, walk and in some cases a down low to the floor crawl as you take cover while fighting to get through all the mess to finally discover your message in the pain. Darts tend to fly at those who give themselves permission to soar during the struggle, hustle, grind, and/or during the restart.

Whatever your Become journey leads you be certain that you concentrate on being intentional during each phase therein while being of the highest integrity as you remain (or become) loyal to you first while respecting the process.

Let me go ahead and say this now —> STOP allowing the distractions to distract (I HAVE FINALLY MASTERED THIS ONE) you from living the life you say you want. Often you speak of what you will do by making commitments to yourself, family members and only to disappoint them as well as you. Today go ahead and forgive yourself for this destructive behavior. Stop making promises and make an oath to live your life the way you envision it. 

It is time to stop starting and simply finish strong. The race isn’t given to the one who finishes first, but actually to the one who endures to the end, so keep your head in the game, the bench is full and it is time you suit up with your armor, you’ve been equipped for all you’ve endure and will go through, but it is how you deal while in the midst of the storms of life. They’re all looking because they know that you’re the M.V.P (Most Valuable Player) because you are simply playing against yourself, so you CAN NOT LOSE, EVER!

REMEMBER you determine how high the benchmark is set and how far you are willing to stretch your thinking to align yourself with purpose.

Life is about becoming ...

“Life’s blue print is about Becoming Who You Already Are … Copyright Daphne’s hand resting on the word of God is what helps her (me) #BecomeWhoIAlreadyAm

If you are anything like I use to be -thank God for a real change in, around, and through me-, since it taught me to love who I am flaws, and all by forgiving myself without harboring hate or holding onto grudges. The Blueprint is never complete because you are forever evolving, growing, knowing and becoming. Enjoy each moment that life offers you by learning the value of the lessons within every experience or blessing —depending how you look it.

One leg at a time begin to grow up and put your BIG Girl Panties on (Boys put your BIG BOY Undies on too), and allow God, & the Universe to make it do what it do in, around, and through you without the struggle of staying stuck in third gear or within the valley when the summit is near.

The Blueprint is you, and individually it is me too. Everything we need is stuck within us. It is time to give birth to purpose along with promise by showing up present and ready to be persistent through what blocks you. Although we can often be our worst enemies which keeps us tied to our past thereby moving nowhere fast. Often living life wondering why we feel barren and some type of way with ONLY hopes and prayers of the ‘it gets better someday’.

Your someday is right now as you read this blog post, and many more to come. As I journey to live my best life yet, I desire to truly NOT only write about ways to Become, but to actually show you with results I pride myself in producing since I, Daphne D. Williams am ever evolving. Each day like you, I juggle on the balance beam of life, hence attempting to carry my own weight and although life happens and it seems unbearable with nobody to support your vision or to whisper purpose in your ears. We MUST master learning to speak a positive word into ourselves, especially on our weakest days, which makes it easy to show off excellence by leading others towards greatness as you join #TheBecomeMovement.

How do you join #TheBecomeMovement?

Well I’m happy that you asked.

You can join #TheBecomeMovement by committing to your purpose to do what God and the Universe has designed & will give you when you begin preventing anything from stopping you from #BecomingWhoYouKnowYouAreAndCanBecome.

Daphne D. Williams

Become Who You Already Are with The Become Movement Copyright Daphne D. Williams

There are many steps to Become Who You Already Are, but it begins with you knowing you, your worth, and that you are worthy of living the life you desire. Design your future by being The Blueprint you once sought. Start to welcome while nourishing your growth, and then remember like true beauty it starts from the inside out, but you MUST:

  • Figure out Who you are & Why do you exist?
  • ASK yourself: What do I love?
  • Why do you want to create this? and Why do you want to become that?
  • Be humble
  • Serve others (growing up I was teased because I thought it was a pleasure to serve others … I was told you are too nice, you are NOT a maid … I was called all sort of names to prevent me from #BecomingWhoIAlreadyAm because my caregivers didn’t fully comprehend my power, promises, presence  thereby they tried to prevent me from unwrapping the gift of me. Sadly they have never had or rather never knew that their Blueprint was capable of doing, so it rotted deep within.)
  • Know your S.W.O.T Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, & Threats, and then work on fixing whats broken or whats out of alignment.
  • Leave what works well alone.
  • DO NOT GET STUCK ON THE DOT; attempting to figure it all out —> Keep moving forward.
  • Teach from your pain, and show the lesson wrapped in ways to monetize your message oppose to having yet another pity party because clearly I am tired of those and my golly miss molly LOL, you should be too.
  •  “YOU HAVE NO MORE TIME TO WASTE”-as Oprah stated during her last show- nor should you desire to procrastinate any longer. It is truly time that you #BecomeTheAnswerYouSeek by either sharing your voice. Helping someone else find the courage to find the lyrics to their song. as you neatly wrap your words in electronic pages within writing an influential number one book on ways .in which you decide to #BeTheEquationAndTheSolution
  • The last shall be first, and the first shall be last, so with that said BELIEVE IN YOU FIRST & FOREMOST, and know that what you seek seeks to connect with you too. Rest assured in respecting the process. Allow the architect to build you back up. Make sure the foundation is strong where growth is the norm. #BecomeBetterNotBitter

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Your Dreams Are Valid


Upon accepting an Oscar Award on her first Feature Film; Actress Lupita Nyong’o, confidently encouraged the audience with four (4) powerful words: “YOUR DREAMS ARE VALID.” As you may have gathered this isn’t a celebrity blog, but it is a place where encouragement is shared from all walks of life and part of Lupita Nyong’o’s acceptance speech (as she paid homage to the slaves she portrayed) with this one sentence truly stood out to me No Matter where you are from, your dreams are valid.”

Lupita Nyongo "Your Dreams Are Valid"

Your Dreams Are Valid Copyright


I’d take it a step further and say YOU MATTER while saying IT IS TIME TO BECOME WHO YOU ALREADY ARE by giving yourself permission to validate YOU in the process of becoming. Like Actress Lupita Nyong’o both your dreams and mine indeed are valid. Despite the hand you’ve been dealt, I will encourage you-in the present storm I find myself in either because of the lack of a decision or making the wrong ones along the way, I have surrendered to purpose, forgive myself, and pick up my dreams despite how heavy or far away they seem because they do matter so much more than ever before- you to live the life you dream about.

Your passion will act as a guide to Become Who You Already Are, but you must not attempt to adjust its very navigational system, but trust the process. Stop reflect about what didn’t happen, what should of happened along with all the what if’s. Time is manmade. Rest on the promises that you were created to create and design something amazing, so let life, the universe, and your legacy fully comprehend that we SHALL become one thereby achieving it all, thereby obtaining the promises, hence fulfill destiny because OUR DREAMS ARE VALID.

(You do realize a lot of these words written here are for ME 1st #ijs … I don’t always know why, but I simply write them)

The need to live the legacy you’ve avoided for so many years is ever present now more so than ever before and for a variety of reasons in this our now seasons. Rest in knowing that what you want wants you too. Stop chasing other peoples programs, projects, and problems and discover how to turn your problems & passions into programs that equal sustainable profits. Challenge you. Go ahead dare yourself to give your dreams another lifeline even if it feels as if you are hanging on to your last one. Go ahead and push through the pain of it all; both literally and figuratively. Stay, remain and get out of your own way as you design your future because nobody else can nor will do that for you.

When you think of living a good successful life perhaps you have thought of that fourth (4th) grade essay you wrote that received gold stars. Maybe you felt some sort of validation for the stars adorning your paper, and felt an overwhelming sense of purpose, pride & promise deep within. It is time to release that which you feel and give yourself a hall pass to move forward in gathering your thoughts, and piecing the puzzle of your life back together. Perhaps we are always chasing that gold star that lives within each of our memories as you are waiting to shine bright like the diamonds we were created to be.

Maybe you have never been encouraged to dream and/or never received a golden star well then it is time you give yourself a star, a pat on the back so to speak, so you can be happy by living your dreams.


Gently, I nudge you to give yourself permission to simply know that your dreams matter, so begin to breathe life into them. Find a way. Make a way. Become the way.

It is so imperative to stop putting everything before you and your dreams, trust I know.

Avoid all distractions on this stretch of your journey, hence you will find this to be the appointed as well as strategic time in which you MUST set aside for you and your God to give birth to ALL your dreams, and stop playing hide and seek with them.

As simple as that reads is as simple as it will be-yeah right-to avoid life’s ups and downs while seeking your dreams.

Nothing worth having will be as simple as that reads, but can be if we quit preventing the process.

Be certain while reaching for that star (within), like Lupita Nyong’o (Yale School of Drama Alumni) study and master your craft with the best in the game.

You may be like me in that you have dreamed a little dream along with a few big ones too as you’ve attempted to help all who asked while encouraging others along the way to obtain theirs as you constantly put yours on the back burner. STOP WATCHING YOUR DREAMS SLIP AWAY. Well it is okay to influence others, but NEVER at your own expense of denying you, and/or your dreams. At some point you myloves should grow tired of pouring so much out and never being restored, so with that said, it’s time to show up ready to live your best life yet despite if you don’t see the results immediately. Keep going. Keep activating your dreams because they will all become yours.


If one of your dreams is to write well or get published, then go ahead research the process, and publish your voice, so you can be heard. Your voice is valid and it matters too. Start a Top Notch, & Stellar Blog that commands respect, the right attention, and a lot of mentions in Google, O, The Oprah Magazine, Black Enterprise, Essence Magazine, Forbes, Secrets to Success, Blogging EZines, & Mashable that sets the standards for Authority Blogs (Bloggers, & Amazing Content Creators) as this one will do in many areas such as Personal Development, Mindset Shift, Legacy Building, Living, Starting all over, and Becoming Who You Already Are. One of my affirmations to achieve this and many other goals is to simply claim it, commit to it while making it happen.

The only thing that can be said at this point is through the tears, fears, and silent cheers- they do watch you but don’t support because believe it or not your dreams through each one of your storms, struggles, failures, misses, slips, and falls intimidates some while scaring the crap out of many because you remind them exactly what they aren’t or will never become since they gave up before starting- keep trying, becoming, and reinventing yourself. Continue to be that source of encouragement you are for self first and others second while ensuring you teach on the road to becoming.

On this our journey there will be many to thank if we take every experience as a learning lesson thereby applying the life lesson as a set up oppose to a setback where growth is encouraged. Within these invaluable lessons are the cornerstones of hope, triumph, faith, tenacity and a sense of knowing ourselves where we are careful not to compare ourselves or our experiences to anyone else. Notwithstanding, we all have similarities, but your (my) journey is mine and if your (my) lessons aren’t learned consistently you (I) will repeat the test or altogether continue to fail the examinations. Needless to say on this part of the journey where the fork in the road is as baffling as some of the situations that chose me, so again living in the now moments to get to purpose is the ultimate goal not having all the answers, but rather seeking to become the solution.

Remember your dreams (and the process of achieving them) may seem strange to most, far-fetched to many, hard to reach, IMpossible, difficult, frustrating, annoying, and disappointing when you listen to the negative (from others and self talk), and doubt in the rejections of not now, maybe later, you weren’t what we were looking for or the plain and simple NO. In life, we all have many decisions to make, so be careful because you will certainly have to live with them all, but you can change your mind when life calls for it, so rest assured in knowing that.

Again, your dreams are valid, you matter and this is your time. No worries. Begin to get better. Master your craft. Stop allowing others to distract you from what is important as you aim to achieve your goals. Become More. Become Who You Already Are. Prove them all wrong. Make them eat their words like scrambled eggs while paying you back (financially speaking) with the validation of being you.


Keep in mind that your thoughts will make your world, so ALWAYS be mindful of what you share, the intentions around it, who you allow in your ear, how you give of yourself and to whom while being ever so careful to ALWAYS give unto yourself first.

Honestly learning to give to me took a mighty long time, but I am happy I figured that one out, and it is panning out to be my greatest invest. The validation of knowing self transitions you into becoming like nothing else, and is widely overlooked. Focused in this stage is essential.


Lupita Nyong’o journey to basking in all her Golden Awards this year has been no crystal stair as her words encourage many on her journey to learning to get over the self hate, and the feeling of unworthiness because of her skin tone. Life, time, and confidence has a way of turning it all around, and now she’s gracing the cover of every Blog (well at least this one), Magazines, and Girls Article on Confidence and the importance of Self-love.

How ironic, you might say, but life has a way of turning itself upside down and you inside out, so you can discover your true purpose. In 12 Years A Slave, the based on real life Film that won her The Academy Award (Oscar), she speaks of the strength of the person she portrays: “It doesn’t escape me for one moment that so much joy in my life is thanks to so much pain in someone else’s, and so I want to salute the spirit of Patsey, for her guidance.” We all have something to bear on the road to our golden moments, so practice, and then show up ready.


On becoming there will be many who attempt to speak death over our dreams, and very life, but it is detrimental to reject anything that doesn’t validate our potential for greatness thus pushing us closer to our dreams. Rejection can teach you many lessons if you don’t internalize them, but rather rationalize them and pull out the criticism as you begin to turn it around for your good, thereby utilizing it for a teachable moment for showing someone else a way out when they feel trapped within the dogma of it all. Encouraging you (influential self talk) to live your best life yet because your dreams are valid thereby knowing that you matter and deserve to be happy, so go now, and Become Who You Already Are.

A BIG THANK YOU, and CONGRATS to Lupita Amondi Nyong’o for simply reminding us that (Y)OUR DREAMS ARE VALID.

Lupita Nyong’o wins her 1st Academy Award; wearing a flawless Prada Flowing -befitting- Powdered Blue Gown.

New Comer, Lupita Nyong'o Wins her 1st Oscar

Lupita Nyong’o Wins her 1st Academy Award (Oscar Award) wearing a flawless Prada Flowing-befitting- Powdered Blue Gown Copyright